Learning how to pickup women can be pretty tough. At first it’s scary approaching strangers and starting up conversations. When I first started meeting women I remember that I had a feeling of, “I’m scared to just walk up to a strange woman and start talking.”
In my mind I could see all the bad stuff happening:
“What if her boyfriend is nearby who easily gets jealous and tries to beat me up?”
“What if she rejects me really badly and I don’t take it well?”
“What if she tells her friends about me because I tried to talk to her?”
These general thoughts were floating inside my head and they were giving me a fear of meeting women. Raise your hand if you’ve ever thought of the above. I’m sure you guys can add to the list.
Since those times, I’ve learned that none of those worst fears would come true when you meet and pickup women. I have met literally hundreds of women in the last year and none (zero!) have reacted in a way that I couldn’t handle in the moment. The fear was all in my head.
The right attitude involves understanding that no single tactic works on every woman. Some women are not interested in meeting someone right now. Some women are lesbians and are just not into guys. Some women are happily married or in a good relationship and don’t want to meet someone new right now. Some are angry. Others are cold.
Realize that if you meet 100 women, only 30 of them might be open to meeting someone new (romantically). This means 70 probably won’t interested. And out of those 30, maybe only 17 of them are positive, nice people. If you want to become good with women, you have to understand that many women that you meet aren’t interested. This is crucial for your attitude. Knowing this will help you from getting discouraged when stuff doesn’t go right.
The right attitude to pickup women: don’t take things personally. 99% of the time, it has nothing to do with you. Take it lightly and just move on. Women are used to being approached by men all the time. Especially attractive women. Although it may be a new experience for you, it’s really nothing special to women. It happens everyday. They literally forget about you in a day. If you approached them the next day, I bet 50% wouldn’t even remember you. Especially if it’s in a club.
