If you feel jealous about something, do you have a problem? Or is it okay to feel jealous about certain things? Jealousy is often seen as a bad thing, but can also be a powerful emotion that helps the relationship develop and grow.
If you’re feeling jealous, first find out what’s making you feel that way. Is he flirting with other women? Is he spending a little too much time with his friends? Do you think he’s enjoying his life even when you’re not in the picture?
It’s okay to feel jealous about certain things, but it’s never okay to let jealousy be the first thing you feel when you think about him. Let’s take the most common scenario — getting jealous when he talks and flirts with other women.
Feeling jealous is natural when he flirts with other women, but there’s really nothing you can do if you haven’t committed to each other yet. Until he’s your boyfriend and you’re his girlfriend, he has every right in the world to make friends with as many women he wants. That’s how dating works.
But if you’re already going steady and he still flirts openly with other women, then that’s a problem! If he’s the kind of guy who needs to be told not to flirt with other women, then it’s best to nip things in the bud and leave him right away. The longer you stay with such a guy, the worse the breakup is going to be.
Jealousy is a powerful emotion, but can also be good for the relationship. The fact that you’re jealous of a certain man means that he’s a real catch — he has the confidence and the resources to do what he wants and follow his own rules. If you can mirror the same kind of independence, then the two of you can be a match made in heaven.
